"But my family needs me."
-Anonymous housewife
I needed to read this today from my book "Meditations For Women Who do to Much" by Anne Wilson Shaef. I accidentally read the page for September 28Th rather than August 28Th, well I shouldn't say accidentally...it was something divine!
Anne explains...
"There is nothing as secure as being needed...or is there?
There is nothing as draining as being needed. We have often made ourselves indispensable at work and at home so that we would feel secure and wanted. Deep down it was inconceivable that people in our lives could love us for who we are. Even if they might, could we afford to take the risk and let their love come to us?
Of course our children need us, but often much less than we wish. Unfortunately, trying to make ourselves indispensable is not relegated to the home and women who work in the home. Often we equate being indispensable with being secure. On fact, we confuse the two."
I feel that allowing myself to be indespensable is driven by my insecurity, my guilt that I am not a good enough mother, my yearning to be what my parents were not for me.
Anne's meditation for that day reads...
"WHEN I AM TRYING TO MAKE MYSELF INDESPENSABLE, I KNOW THAT I NEED TO LOOK INSIDE MYSELF TO SEE WHAT I AM FEELING." and I must add "and who I am."
Quotation Station...
From the Movie "Broken Trails":
"We're all travelers in this world,
From the sweet grass,
To the Packin' house...
Birth till death
We travel between the Eternities."
"Plants are the young of the world, vessels of helath and vigor... they grope ever upward toward consciousness."
Ralph Wlado Emerson (1803-1882)
Fear less, hope more;eat less, chew more;whine less, breathe more;talk less, say more;love more, and all good things will be yours.
-Swedish proverb
"We're all travelers in this world,
From the sweet grass,
To the Packin' house...
Birth till death
We travel between the Eternities."
"Plants are the young of the world, vessels of helath and vigor... they grope ever upward toward consciousness."
Ralph Wlado Emerson (1803-1882)
Fear less, hope more;eat less, chew more;whine less, breathe more;talk less, say more;love more, and all good things will be yours.
-Swedish proverb
Thursday, August 28, 2008
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Journal Jottings...
As ironic as it may seem, I was inspired to begin this blog by mean and rude people. Through people I've met, both good and bad, it continues to blow me away how some people can be to others without knowing them or never even meeting them before. Sometimes my mind asks, "What have I ever done to you? I don't even know you!" I'll be the first to admit to some pretty bad days, and I'm sure there will be much opportuntiy for more, but that is still no reason to treat people crappy. I just so badly wanted to take the negetivity from myself, and those around me and turn that energy into goodness, happiness, love and inspiration. It is so easy to get caught up in the financial stress, work worries, and just too much stuff going on in our lives, but we can still be good and happy people. That goodness has seemed to have been lost among much of society, especially through kids...and they are the source. I truely believe kids are what, when all is said and donewill change the world, will change all of us. We must be the examples, but more importantly we must be willing for these little people to teach us, and for us to actually learn from them. I get the biggest kick out of people who are so annoyed by kids and crying babies, like they never were one...get over yourself, and try to use a little patience. Have some fun. If you do good, good will come to you.
-2005
-2005
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